No matter how many relationships you have or haven't been in... I don't think anyone is an "expert" on them.
But I do feel there are points to note on the good relationships you observe... And equally on the bad ones.
When our relationships with friends make us unhappy, or don't fulfill a need (someone to confide in, confidentially. Someone who'll have your back in times of trouble or hooliganism. Someone you want to call right away to share good news with etc.) We dissolve the friendship....sometimes.
Yes?
Just as a friendship should be of MUTUAL positivity and benefit, so to shouldn't a committed relationship?
Why are so many relationships "on show" biasedly destructive? Why is one side of most relationships I've witnessed recently been set on destroying the other half and the friendships/relationships/family of the other half?
What is there to gain from ruining the core and happiness of your partner?
I've always rolled my eyes at the phrase "they complete me" .... No. Either you are a complete person and they're the "icing on the cake of who you are" ...or you are headed for imminent disaster when you one day realise "they won't allow you to be you" or you need to go on a journey to "find yourself".
The other person should be the cherry on the top of the cake that is you and who you are. They should even make you better...happy...
One sided destruction, secrets, hiding things...
Has this become what relationships are? Or have they always been an all out selfish gain for one side?
If so... Thank goodness for single life.
And thank goodness for the choice in having positive friends to embrace your own choice to live as you want to be.
With so many soul sucking relationships out there... I am surprised we have any kind of civility left in this world.
To my friends on the receiving end of these destructive relationships... I wish all the answers were available. I wish the ways out were easier. I wish we could have seen it coming...
I know you're all worth better and you all deserve better.
And should I ever find myself on that train track...I hope I have the sense and heart to heed the warnings of friends and family.
Within reason of course ;)
Happy Friday.
